I read somewhere that the difference between asking and telling is subtle. That was in relation to horses. but I’m not so sure, its not what I see. Let me talk this through….
If we put that in the context of asking or telling a person we would deem the difference to be huge. Right? So why should we deem that to be any different for the animals in our lives.
The difference between asking and telling is HUGE and, even though the resulting behaviour may be the same, it looks different for many reasons including; motivation, alertness, state of relaxation, enthusiasm.
The difference between asking and telling is emotional and that can be measured by behaviour.