I wanted to share this blog from Mastin Kippen, The Daily love Blog. it reminded me so much of training with the horses. What we don’t want to be doing is controlling and managing their every movement, instead we need to set things up and trust the outcome. Sometimes that outcome will be what we expect, sometimes the outcome will be unexpected. We have to be ok with the outcome for the training to be successful.
What we aimed for as an outcome might not have been appropriate. By trusting the outcome we are listening to the horse.
“Can you live in the maybe?
When my dad asked my mom to marry him, she didn’t say yes or no…she said maybe.
When I think about that, it makes me a little edgy. To think that the person I love said maybe, instead of an immediate yes, puts my ego into an uproar.
What did my dad do? Did he demand that she answer him now and tell her that if she didn’t say yes, that she didn’t really love him? Nope.
My Dad said, “Cool, well I’ll give you 10 years to think about it…” And that was that; he let it go.
Then, two weeks later my mom said yes and they’ve been happily married for 34 years.
I credit this partly because of the major act of selfless trust that my father placed onto my mom without any pressure. There is a lot to be learned from this act of trust.
I know if it had been me, I don’t know if I could have kept my cool. I would have wanted an immediate answer. I mean, my emotions and heart are on the line; you don’t mess with those! But instead of being demanding and selfish, my dad let go and trusted the outcome.
How many of us can do that in life? Instead of demanding what we want and wanting it now, can we ask The Uni-verse for what we want, and then let go? Can we rest in the peace of the moment knowing we are provided for and that the perfect thing, which is probably better than what we asked for in the first place, will show up?
Do we really have the faith to live the maybe? Or better put, can we see that the delays of The Uni-verse are not Its denials? Can we let go and let things unfold naturally?
The Truth is that the perfect outcome will happen. My mom told my father yes; but if she had said no, he would have gotten the Truth and been able to move on to find a woman who loved him and could go the distance.
Ask for the emotional sobriety and peace of mind to be okay living the maybes. Get comfortable in the in-between. Know that delays are not denials and have fun in the moment, in the mean time, as it evolves into an ever better version of reality.
Do you have what it takes to live the maybe today?
Lots of Love
Mastin Kippen, The Daily Love Blog